A week late, but here are a couple genuine reasons why I don’t set drastic new years resolutions (no judgement if you do) and instead set a couple small, REALISTIC intentions.

I’m sharing a couple life changing tips I learned from Ed Mylett’s feature on the Skinny Confidential’s podcast!

Firstly, I don’t feel that the ‘ball dropping” on Jan. 1st is a compelling enough reason to make major life changes when I can make smaller, sustainable changes and actually enjoy the journey to growth - not just the outcome. This creates space for reflection these intentions and allows change. After all, life isn’t static! My approach doesn’t cultivate an “all or nothing mindset” which leaves you worse off than you started mentally and maybe physically.

Secondly, Perfectionism is just a cop out. We know before starting that it’s not a real standard we can maintain. You’re already starting by focusing on whatever you’re “deficient” in. Instead we should be striving for self-confidence. Self confidence is self trust. It’s the process of keeping consistent promises TO YOURSELF. No one can create positive momentum and change for you.

So how are we doing this wrong? We’re setting too big of promises, being unintentional with them, and not connecting how the little “fails” you say you’re going to do. This leads to insecurity.

Ed Mylett notes that in order to get something to work for you, you need to have your body and mind in congruence. Your body is your unconscious mind - it’s how you feel things and your mind is the thought. What happens for most people is they write a goal down “I’m going to make $300,000 and immediately as they write their thought down and their unconscious mind (the body) doesn’t feel that this is true. They’re not in a peak state. They don’t feel like it’s true and the feeling overrides the thought.

The reverse can be true - you can have great feelings, but don’t have a consistent goal. Most people don’t align their feelings and their thoughts. It’s powerful as hell when you get congruency with your feelings and your thoughts. Now you’re unstoppable. Ed does all his visualizations/goals when working out and training. It’s in this peak state that he anchors the thought. It can be 30 seconds of yoga, walking, running. (it doesn’t matter what form of movement).

Your thoughts and body are beginning to get trained in embodying that goal. The old school of “write your goals down and say it out-loud when you brush your teeth” is outdated. We’ve proven it doesn’t work because there’s a body in the old mode when the mind is trying to think a new thought.

Last thing: Visualize the celebration of the goal - there’s a gratitude of the achievement of the goal. Feel the feeing. Project yourself in the video of this goal happening and flood yourself with gratitude for its achievement before you have it. You will begin to step into this space more regularly.

Having body, mind, and gratitude connected in the visualization will shift almost everything for you.

Here are a couple of my NY Intentions to get you guys brainstorming:

✖️no phone before bed or in the bedroom (I’m going to start plugging it in my bathroom before bed)
✖️Waking up and going to bed at the same time each night.

✖️Knowing that I’m exactly where i’m supposed to be

✖️Phone call / FaceTime my friends more over texting
✖️Continue to redirect the self hate internal dialogue into self love talk
✖️Live with more intentionality
✖️Try to meditate at least 15 mins a day (if I don’t make it first thing in the morning, just fit it in the evening
✖️Listen more than talk - I want to practice not responding right away

✖️Continue the hard personal work and save enough for regular therapy sessions
✖️Less cardio, more yoga for grounding energy & listening to when my body is tired.

Love you all and hope your year is off to an amazing start! Let me know your intentions below - I love reading them!

xoxo kleanwellness